HOW TO RELEASE ANGER AND EMBRACE COMPASSION

One of the most rewarding but difficult practices in life is showing compassion, even when it feels impossible. When faced with frustrating or upsetting situations, I often ask myself, “What would Buddha do?” or “How might Mahatma Gandhi respond to this?” I aim to live with kindness toward all living beings, but there are moments, as a human being, when anger feels overpowering, and compassion seems out of reach.

From a broader perspective, we are all interconnected, sharing this one planet and this dimension. The joy of one person can ripple out and contribute to the happiness of others every bit as much as hate and anger.

I believe life is like a school where we all have lessons to learn. Sometimes we are the students, sometimes the teachers - and often we find ourselves switching roles many times during our lifetime.

Life Lessons Through Reincarnation

In my spiritual beliefs, reincarnation plays a significant role. This concept suggests that we return to this Earth realm over many lifetimes, each time with unique lessons to master. For some, it might be learning honesty or suffering, while for others, it could mean embracing courage, modesty, or compassion.

Of all the virtues, compassion is universal no matter what your beliefs might be. It is a quality that everyone can nurture and expand upon. Yet, anger is a natural human emotion, and even the most compassionate people can feel its pull.

For instance, if someone were to harm my children, I can’t deny that my protective instincts might drive me to extreme emotions.

Life's Daily Challenges Are Tests

Life often presents challenges that test our ability to stay compassionate and grounded. Whether we are faced with major setbacks or small daily annoyances, it can feel like a constant test of our resolve. Sometimes, the best course of action is to pause, step back, and let things settle a little bit. Other times, we need to tackle the issue directly and swiftly.

The people closest to us - family members, friends, or partners - often reflect our own behaviours and test our patience. Think about how many times you have felt frustration or anger toward a parent, sibling, or child. How often have you needed to take a deep breath and count to ten to calm yourself, or even step outside of the room? These relationships, while occasionally frustrating, offer us opportunities to practice patience and grow in compassion.

Practicing Loving Kindness

In Buddhism, compassion is cultivated through a practice called Maitri, or loving-kindness meditation. This involves focusing on feelings of love and care, first toward oneself, then extending it to family, friends, strangers, and even those we consider difficult or hostile. Finally, this sense of compassion is spread to all beings.

Turning Anger into Compassion on the Road

One of the most unexpected places to practice loving kindness is while driving. It is so easy to feel irritated by reckless drivers or their inconsiderate actions on the road, but I have started using these moments as opportunities to practice compassion.

Instead of reacting with frustration, I remind myself that the other driver is someone’s loved one - a parent, sibling, or child. I imagine what might be causing their behaviour. Perhaps they are rushing to the hospital to see a loved one or distracted by personal hardships like a relationship breakdown.

By creating these conscious compassionate narratives, I shift my perspective and calm my emotions. Instead of anger, I feel understanding. My energy changes and I feel lighter and more at peace.

Small Steps Toward Greater Compassion

Every day offers moments to practice compassion, whether it is with strangers, loved ones, or even ourselves.

By choosing understanding over anger, we not only improve our own emotional wellbeing but also contribute to a kinder, more compassionate world.

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